Get Active!

Are you passively waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right to show up? Maybe you're even refusing to try, hoping that God will take care of it all for you. Risk avoidance is not a good strategy if you want to date. You may need to get active and make connections.

Sure, everyone has a love story of a person “randomly” entering the life of someone they know. Yet, in real-life relationships "random" is usually not random. Even I have a story. I personally know a couple in which the woman had decided to not take any action, and the man she ended up marrying literally showed up at her front door! However, while she had personally made little obvious effort, he had intentionally sought her out based on the referral of a mutual friend. As a rule, sitting around expecting a just-in-time personal delivery of your potential beloved might work in a Hallmark movie, but it is an unrealistic strategy in real life. It may represent a misplaced faith as well.

The better approach is to work collaboratively with God to learn and grow while seeking to connect and make friends. This is how relationships are built.

Paul wrote to the church in Thesalonica,

"For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: 'If a man will not work, he shall not eat.' We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies. Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the bread they eat." (2 Thessalonians 3:10 NIV)

Don't shy away from the work in your life. It's time to get out there. Happy Dating!


(c) 2022 Mark Bradberry